RUNNING SEPARATE HOME BY MARRIED COUPLE: PROBLEMS AND STRATEGIES FOR IMPROVEMENT

CHAPTER ONE

INTRODUCTION

BACKGROUND OF THE STUDY

Family is a group of people related either by blood or by marriage. These relations often form very meaningful social groups in which we feel comfortable and safe. The close bounds which we make usually last until they are broken by death or sometimes geographical distances.

        Anyakoha (1991) stated that family that family is important institution which passes on the culture to the children, channels sexual appetites and provides the means of satisfying human needs.

        According to Odigbo (2002) family is a social institution established by God from the beginning, when he created man and woman and command them to lived together for the purpose of multiplying and filling the earth. By this proclamation, the family acquired an inherent and inahenable light to care for and educate the young members of the family.

        Odigbo (2002) stated that marriage as an organized society consists of the rules which governs the relationship between husband and wife or husbands and wives. These rules defines how the relationship shall be established and how it may be ended the expectations and obligation it entails and the persons who may or may not enter into such relationship.

        Chinoy (1961) states that marriage is a palrilocal residence if the husband and wife slays with the man’s family, malrical residence if the husband and wife slays with the woman’s family, neolocal residence. If the husband and wife established their own independent domical. In addition to ensuring a continuing sexual relationship because of its child bearing function, marriage is also the licensing of parenthood. In view of this it is a drama in which everyone becomes an actor or actress and not just a spectator.

        These days, things are changing because of rising tide of the powerful few interest in human generated by liberation movement, the life of woman alone. Widow, divorce and separated and recognition today. Today there are a lot of books, articles, drama on the legal and emotional aspect of separation, on the changing status of the working couples, on the financial complexities of widowhood on the challenge of single parenthood and of course, on the joys and sorrows of the single woman’s love life. The basic challenge for the most separates homes is going shapes and direction to their lives, because the separation of home is like being faced with pieces of a complicated jigsaw puzzle and asked to fit them together in a meaningful and satisfying way.

        Marriage in Africa region was being dominated by men folk. The woman’s duly was to cook, keep home and farm, movement for her was restricted when the man was away another elder in the family takes care and control of all the members of the family till the man returns from the journey. That is to say that woman live under the care, control and protection of man while their husband traveled.

        The civilization education and modern life have lifted the status of woman in the society, some are stronger than men in the family and in all capacities except the naturally endowed powers.

        Women today, can do any job, more freely to all parts of the world just as men do. They are neither controlled nor fear that anything will hinder them. Some women today like better life than men. To many of us the world outside marriage life looks bleak and bewildering. How does families who has been living together feel when they are separated? How does the woman cope with the fids. This research is not for the man who wonders how he will leave his family for sometimes to a distance place.

        This research work will provide an encouragement and sound advice on attendant problems that may enumerate from living separately, such as emotional and practical issues that faces couples living apart love and friendship works and money, day care and decision making while a husband in away from homes.

        Family may also be separated if one is doing a kind of job that requires long absence for example armed forces sewices

STATEMENT OF THE PROBLEM

Married couples are said to be people strongly united for the purpose of feeding, procreating, companionship and security. Naturally the couples are meant to live together.

        Today, some married couples run separated homes and this run into problems, what necessitates married couples running separate homes? What are the problem associated with this? How can the situation be ameliorated? These are the problem of the study.

PURPOSE OF THE STUDY

The objective of the study is to examine the problems of running separate homes by married couples these problems alleviating in Federal College of Education Umunze in Anambra State.

        Specifically, this study intend to study the following objectives.

1.          To find out the causes of running separate homes by married couples in Federal College of Education Umunze in Anambra State.

2.          To ascertain the problems that are involved in running separate homes by married couples.

3.          To determine the effects of running home separately by married couples.

4.          To find out the likely strategies for improvement.

SIGNIFICANCE OF THE STUDY

The findings of this study is expected to be of immense significance to the marred couples, children and the society at large.

        The finding of this study will make married couples to start being closed to each other in order to know the problem of one another and to render help immediately. It will also make them understand that they are one complete body, that staying separately means being incomplete in doing things in every aspect of life.

        The finding of the study will make the children of how parents to understand and enjoy the joy of staying together with their parents always, child together with their parents always, discuss their problems always and solve their problems together. It will also make them received balanced love, care and affection from both.

        The finding of this study make the society to be good. That the society today is not good is from the home. The home is the centre of everything. It the parents untendly trained up a child, and the society will benefit because this indiscipline committed by untrained children in the society will decrease.

SCOPE OF THE STUDY

This research is focused on the Federal College of Education Umunze in Anambra State.

        It is delimited to find out the causes of running separate homes, the problems inherent in running separate homes and the necessary strategies for improvement.

RESEARCH QUESTION

The following research question were to guide the researchers.

i.            What are the causes of running home separately by married couples in Federal College of Education Umunze.

ii.          How does living separate homes affect married couples?

iii.        What are the problems facing couples running separate homes in Federal College of Education Umunze?

iv.         What are the strategies for improvement of running homes separately by married couples?